I just wanted to share two incidents that have happened at my photography studio in the past month which have left me speechless.
Few weeks ago, a lady was objecting over her 5 year old daughter’s photos. According to her the little girl’s ears were sticking out. I insisted that the ears were fine while the mother kept insisting they were sticking out.
The one thing that broke my heart the most was when I saw the little girl clutching her ears…
Today, same scenario happened with a teen and it didn’t matter how many times I took her photo because the mother would still object. It really got me wondering about the message these mothers are instilling in their daughters.
I couldn’t help but wonder the kind of damage they’re doing by addressing them like this in front of ME….A complete stranger.
Here are some of the comments that made my skin crawl:
“Can you remove facial hair off her face?”
“Fix her hairline on Photoshop!”
“She doesn’t look good when she smiles.”
“Can you blur some of her ear? It’s sticking out.”
“Delete some of her ear on Photoshop.”
“Can you Photoshop her face? It’s not smooth.”
“Shall I apply more mascara on her eyelashes?”
“Does she need lipstick?”
“Her eyebrows aren’t right…Why?”
“She has a droopy eye…can it be fixed on Photoshop?”
“Her hair is too frizzy. Can it be fixed on Photoshop?”
“Why are her lips crooked? Can they be fixed on Photoshop?”
Of course today I was more prepared to defend the teenager. I kept complementing every single detail her mother was complaining about, while finding ways to make her smile and relax.
I chose the photos myself to save the girl from harsh criticism and when the mother objected. I smiled and told her, “Your daughter is beautiful…No Photoshop needed.”
It also made her older sisters wink at me and grin widely.
The main message in these two situations :
Photoshop can’t erase future self-esteem issues.