“It is a curious thing, the death of a loved one. .. It is like walking up the stairs to your bedroom in the dark, and thinking there is one more stair than there is. Your foot falls down, through the air, and there is a sickly moment of dark surprise as you try and readjust the way you thought of things.”― Lemony Snicket, Horseradish
This is one of my favorite quotes about grief that has always touched my heart because it’s so accurate. I love how it describes your foot falling down through the air and there’s always that sickly moment of dark surprise that accompanies loss.
Somehow a lot of people think grief should be faced with strength. A lot of people still think that feeling your sadness is a sign of weakness and that grief is something you should escape in order to keep moving forward.
Just because you’ve been through loss before it doesn’t mean you can just shake it off. We connect and bond with each person we meet differently.
When you lose someone, there’s always a readjustment of your entire world. Because when you share your life with your loved ones you become accustomed to their warmth and love. Then one day it’s all gone, and a part of you dies with them.
You grieve the safety, the dreams, and the comfort you once had when these people were in your life. You start picking up the shattered pieces while trying to make sense of them.
You learn to live without the people you’re accustomed to while accepting that parts of you will never be mended. Somehow, you’re expected to work up the courage to take another step, but it doesn’t happen right away. It always happens at your own pace…
Grief comes in waves and it can feel like this burden will last forever. Whenever it gets overwhelming I’m learning to pause, breathe, and try to focus on the next step.
Sometimes the tiniest steps matter. Patiently soaking in the changes grief has made you face can help you readjust the way you think about life and loss.